I Wanted God’s Best for Marriage

I was sixteen years old when my father sat me down and informed me that he was divorcing my mother and within weeks would be marrying my mother’s best friend. My whole world fell apart in a matter of minutes. I had thought my whole childhood that my parents were happy. They were devout Christians. Why, my father was a minister for a denominational church.

During the months that followed, my three brothers and I were torn between what we thought was real and what we discovered was false. I concluded that if this is what a Christian marriage was—a facade for infidelity—then I would have nothing of it. My fear of getting married and failing at it was so great that I decided then I did not want to marry.

Only two years later, my college roommate introduced me to The Way Ministry. As I took our ministry’s classes, the Word of God I learned showed me His plan for a Christian marriage. I learned in Ephesians, chapter 5, the roles God meant for a Christian man and woman to fill in marriage. I saw powerful examples in the household of The Way of married couples who lived the Word of God in their marriages. These husbands and wives taught me the fundamentals of a strong marriage, in which both man and woman are like-minded and committed to put God first in their lives.

The Word of God I learned showed me what went wrong in my parents’ marriage. There was no companionship. They each lived separate lives. The only thing that kept them under the same roof was raising their four children. I decided that my life would be different from my parents’ lives. I wanted God’s best for marriage in my life. And as I built the truths of His Word about this vital category of life into the fabric of my thinking, God delivered me from all the fear of failure that enslaved me!

I began to date my sisters in Christ in the household and endeavored to live God’s love in these relationships. I built my believing to find the woman whom I wanted to spend the rest of my life with, moving God’s Word together. I got clear and concerned about what my heavenly Father wanted for me. At age twenty-six, I married my best friend. We have enjoyed over thirty-five years of marriage now. Because of the Word of God that I learned in The Way Ministry, I overcame my fear of failure, married a beautiful and virtuous woman, and today enjoy a wonderful life of serving God and His people together!

Teaching My Children God’s Word—I Can Do!

I truly have loved growing up in this ministry. The truths that I have learned over many years have helped me be victorious through many situations I have faced. God’s Word really is so practical for every stage of our lives!

One of the ways that I have most recently been applying truths I have learned in this ministry is in motherhood. My parents are great examples to me of diligently teaching the Word to us kids as we lived life. Now this was something that would be my responsibility. Before I had our first child, I wondered if I would be able to apply what God’s Word says in Deuteronomy 6:7:

And thou shalt teach them diligently unto thy children, and shalt talk of them when thou sittest in thine house, and when thou walkest by the way, and when thou liest down, and when thou risest up.

It seemed that this would be a daunting task—to teach my children the Word diligently when talking, when walking, when lying down, when living life. It seemed like a huge task! I doubted whether I could do this all the time. However, as God always does, He works in us to help us accomplish whatever we set out to do. This is what I established in my heart after our first child was born and then again after our second child was born.

As our first child was growing, I realized that I really do know plenty of scriptures that apply to the situations we were facing. I also realized that I was already applying so much of the Word in my life, but usually quietly to myself. A big difference when you put children into the mix is that it is more of a verbal, out loud recognition of a verse that applies to the situation. Teaching my child how God’s Word applies to life’s situations was something that I could do. It can be an easy part of life because “It is written” is my standard!

One of the scriptures that we have utilized many times is II Timothy 1:7:

For God hath not given us the spirit of fear; but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind.

This verse has helped me keep my sound mind in the face of a whiny child who is pushing his boundaries. This verse has helped my children keep their sound minds when they are learning different emotions and how to deal with them or when they’re simply learning that obeying their parents is the best option.

There have been a few times when I have been helping one of our children calm down, and sometimes I have been tempted to think, “How can I get him to stop crying? I don’t know what I can do!” Then quickly after that, I remember that I can always give him the Word. It always works.

So I will usually quote II Timothy 1:7 (or have him quote the verse to me if he is old enough) and remind him that God has given us sound minds. It doesn’t take long for the tears to stop and for his body and mind to get peaceful. I know that as our children grow older, this verse and many, many more will continue to apply to all of life’s situations.

How thankful we are for the truths of God’s Word which help keep the peace in our homes and in our hearts and in the hearts of our children.

Walking by the Spirit of God

My husband and I were traveling on an eight-lane highway, and there was a lot of traffic. One car stuck out to me as the driver was weaving in and out of the highway lanes. God was working in me and getting my attention to the end that I was not comfortable as this car was nearing ours. I admonished my husband, who was driving our car, to stay away from the driver in that car. He immediately switched lanes to avoid driving next to this car. Within seconds this car went out of control as the driver tried to switch lanes too quickly. The car began spinning in circles and spun out of control across three lanes until it stopped in the median once it hit the guardrail. Amazingly, the driver did not appear to be injured and there were no other cars involved in this accident!

The Way Ministry has taught my husband and me God’s Word, the Bible, and what it says about how to walk by the spirit of God and how to listen to God’s still, small voice. Also, we have learned that He is a God that loves and protects His people. This incident was an incredible illustration to me of God’s awesome care upon our lives and how God works in us when we are in fellowship with Him and walking by the spirit of God. What a joy and privilege we have to know God’s rightly divided Word that teaches us His loving nature to care for and protect His sons and daughters.

God Talked to My Spirit

In 2014, my wife, daughter, and I attended our first Advanced Class. It was an incredible time as we learned how to have a more mature walk in God’s Word. We learned how to walk by the spirit and operate the six revelation and impartation manifestations. Not only did we learn about these manifestations, but we met and saw God’s people from around the world.

A few weeks later, we were having a family reunion in Georgia. One of the events was tubing. We were having a great time tubing. It was a hot day and the water was cool but refreshing. My, my wife’s, and my daughter’s tubes were tied together as one. As the family was going down the river, my tube flipped over and I went into the water. After I got back in my tube, I discovered that I had lost my keys.

As we started speaking in tongues, praying, and believing, one of our family members was coming down the river past us. I stopped him and told him that I had lost my keys and to tell the others (some were believers) to pray and believe that I find my keys. As we made our way back to the bank to get out of the tube and walk back up the side of the river, I said to myself, “This can’t be happening.” The keys were to a rental car, and calling the rental car company was not an option. The adversary was trying to steal, kill, and destroy our vacation.

I went boldly to the Father and told Him, “God, You are going to have to fix this.” I was speaking in tongues as I was walking up the side of the river, not knowing where the tube flipped over. As I went back into the water, I dodged and pushed other people in tubes out of the way. Also, I helped others that were stuck on the rocks. God talked to my spirit and said, “Stop, bend down, and pick up your keys.” I then said, “Yes, thank you, Father. Thank you.”

Once we got back to the family members, we all rejoiced. It was God working in the situation as we all had mutual believing.

God Made a Way

I was new to this country and new to The Way Ministry, living in the eastern United States, and working twelve-hour shifts as a nurse in a cardiac unit. A new assistant manager was hired in my unit, and it seemed like her life’s mission was to make my life as miserable as possible. My assignment was always the toughest and any request for time off was never granted. She always made an excuse why she just couldn’t give me the time off. Usually, I brushed it off amid the taunts of my coworkers that I had angered her somehow. Truthfully, no one, least of all me, understood why she seemed to hate me so.

It was July and I put in a request for a week off in August to attend the Rock of Ages at Headquarters in Ohio. My household fellowship coordinator shared that we would leave town Saturday at about 6:00 a.m., carpooling together as a fellowship to arrive in Ohio later that evening, refreshed and ready for registration on Sunday. So, my request was submitted for Saturday through Sunday off. (We would return the following Saturday, so I figured I could rest on Sunday and return to work on Monday.) My request off was granted except for the first Sunday, the day after we were supposed to leave.

I made an appointment to meet with the assistant manager and explained that if we left for Ohio on Saturday there was no way I could make it back to work on Sunday. She refused to budge and insisted I work on Sunday. I shared that with my household fellowship coordinator and fellowship, and we prayed and just believed God to cover. We left on Saturday for the Rock of Ages and enjoyed a fabulous time in God’s Word.

When I returned, I was told that the hospital had made a new position for the assistant manager and that she had been transferred immediately to a different department where I would have no interaction with her. To this day, I have no idea what that new position was. GOD IS GOOD.

Matthew 6:33 Is True!

It was August 1981, and I was looking for a job at the local hospital in the small southwestern town I had just moved to as part of our ministry’s yearlong outreach program. This was a small college town, with only about twelve thousand people residing in it. I had just graduated from college with a degree in medical laboratory technology, and I desired to work part-time at the town’s small community hospital so I could immediately put my college degree to work. I was putting God first in my actions, and I was believing for God to do “exceeding abundantly above” all I could ask or think!

I applied at the hospital and was excited to get an interview. At the interview the supervisor said, “It’s amazing that you’re here right now. We just had an opening in the laboratory! We weren’t sure how we could fill this position in this town.” I was hired and my hours were perfect: mornings, part-time. During my employment there, I was able to hone my skills as a medical laboratory technician. I saw in a tangible form that Matthew 6:33 is true!

Matthew 6:33:
But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you.

I Finally Understood

My first fellowship was a Branch meeting on July 4, 1979. This was the first time that I saw the love of God manifested by all the believers and saw the manifestations of holy spirit. This was the first time that I walked into a room and was loved and totally accepted for who I was. I was impressed that of about forty believers, every one of them made the effort to greet me and made an impact upon my life. What I saw was what I wanted in my life.

I took the Foundational Class in September, and that class showed me how to get rid of fear in my life. I had been brought up with the belief that when you die you go to heaven. This really bothered me because when I was nine my mom died. Many people told me that my mom was watching over me, and that made me angry. My thinking was that if she was watching over me, then why didn’t she live to be there with me and help me to grow up? Then the Foundational Class taught me I Thessalonians 4:13-18. Being taught these verses delivered me and healed me from wrong teaching and fear. I was electrified at what I was being taught. I soared with delight and was no longer angry at my mom. I finally understood that she was asleep, awaiting the return of Jesus Christ, and that brought great peace.

Another verse that brought so much deliverance in my life is John 10:10: “The thief cometh not, but for to steal, and to kill, and to destroy: I am come that they might have life, and that they might have it more abundantly.” I gained understanding of the goodness of God and that He wanted to bless my life, and I gained understanding of the adversary. I now have the knowledge and understanding that I am born again and can speak in tongues and that the adversary no longer has any rights to my life.

This ministry has taught me how to work the Word of God and prove that the rightly divided Word of God works every time. God has brought deliverance and healing and wisdom and understanding to my life because of the rightly divided Word of God that I have learned in The Way Ministry.

Able to Bring Comfort

Prior to being introduced to a home fellowship, I wanted to understand why my grandad had to die. I still needed him. For two years, I was in turmoil over losing him. I asked God to let him know I missed him. I said, “Grandad, if you can hear me, what do I do about….” My heart was broken. Now, this was not a continuous, daily event, but it happened often enough to cause me some anxiety.

In 1993, I went to my first home fellowship. After the fellowship, one of the ladies and I sat on the front step, and she shared with me about the dead not being alive. She shared very logically why my grandad is not alive in heaven at this time, and she showed me from God’s Word. Instantly I was released from my prison! I cried because I FINALLY got my answer. I wanted to know more, so as soon as the Foundational Class was available I signed up.

About a year after I took my first Foundational Class, my mom graduated from the class too. It was awesome.

Over several years, I continued to grow in my understanding, went out as a Way Disciple, went to work on Staff at The Way International, met my husband, and so on.

Fast forward to the fall of 2009. My mom was diagnosed with cancer, and it was terminal. It had spread to her lymph nodes. Within a month of her diagnosis, she fell asleep. Although it stung very much, I knew the truth. She is awaiting the return of our lord and savior, Jesus Christ. Without the truth of God’s Word, I would have been in the same situation I was in when my grandad fell asleep. This time I was able to bring comfort to my sibling and to my extended family, and to friends of my mom. I was able to minister to them with God’s Word. Although it is a difficult topic, I was able to help. I also received encouragement from my brothers and sisters in Christ.

The way I was able to handle the loss of my grandad versus my mom was like night and day. I am so thankful to the ministry, The Way International, which taught me the rightly divided Word and how to renew my mind. Do I miss my mom? Of course I do. But I am confident that I will see her at the return.

Seeing Others Succeed in Life

Proverbs 29:18:
Where there is no vision, the people perish: but he that keepeth the law, happy is he.

The best thing about learning the rightly divided Word from The Way International has been knowing God’s vision for my life. I was born and grew up in mainland China. My nation is a male-dominated country, and there it is widely accepted that boys are considered more precious than girls. I am thankful to my parents for raising me to not limit myself by accepting this belief. I was brought up to believe that as long as I work hard and stay focused, I can be just as successful as boys. My parents had a vision of success for my life.

Fourteen years ago, I was introduced to The Way International, and for the first time I was shown the rightly divided Word. I was interested to know what God said about “success.”

Joshua 1:8:
This book of the law shall not depart out of thy mouth; but thou shalt meditate therein day and night, that thou mayest observe to do according to all that is written therein: for then thou shalt make thy way prosperous, and then thou shalt have good success.

I learned that success depends on carrying out the conditions of the rightly divided Word as Joshua 1:8 states, not just on hard work as my parents taught me.

Recently, my understanding of godly success has been redefined. I now understand that success is not just about me, but about sharing my knowledge and what I know of the Word with others and seeing others succeed in life. I met a woman at a conference and developed a good friendship with her. This woman shared with me about a certain mental bondage that has imprisoned her for ten years. She had to sell her father’s business when she was twenty-six years old because she was too young to be able to manage it when her father passed away. For ten years she had been trying to prove that she is not a loser in life. I shared with her Psalms 103:11-13, and this has helped her to envision herself being released from guilt and condemnation.

It is a great joy to not only see God’s vision for my own life but also to be able to share God’s vision with other people by giving them the rightly divided Word, enabling them to succeed in life!

Power to Reconcile

It was story day at the library, and my kids and I were there enjoying our weekly routine. After we sang songs and listened to the lively storytelling, I did my normal storybook search. The storybook search is when I peruse the shelves for books that my kids will enjoy reading later while they play happily with toys and with the other children also at story time.

This particular day they were playing with two other children who were siblings and just their ages. I had seen these kids before, but today their mom, whom I had never met, was with them. The mom and I casually talked about our children and their favorite toys; it was a pleasant conversation. Finally, the time came for me to round up the children and our large pile of books.

I was beginning to head to the checkout when I “heard” some clear instructions from God. The very brief instructions were specific: I was to invite this mom and her children to my home. I was a little surprised, but I thought, “Oh…OK.” So I stopped, turned around, and headed back to the woman. By the time I got to her, I was convinced of what I needed to do. I extended the invitation to the mom, and with no surprise to me, she accepted.

A few days later that mom and I got together at my home with our kids, and the rest, as they say, is history. Today that woman is a wonderful friend and Advanced Class graduate who is enjoying the blessing of knowing and living God’s Word. During the process of undershepherding my friend, I had lots of opportunities to apply and teach the Word that I had learned and was learning from ministry classes and fellowship. I am especially thankful though for what I had been taught about the nine manifestations of holy spirit from The Way of Abundance and Power series. Being knowledgeable about the power available to me because of the holy spirit I have inside was key to my boldness to follow through on God’s instructions.

Often my heart has been full of thanks to God for His love in this situation. God’s care for one individual and what He is willing to do to help us reconcile men and women to Him is heartwarming. God clearly lays out in His Word what our role and abilities are in Christ, and I am thankful that I can make situations such as this my normal expectation.

Acts 1:8:
But ye shall receive power, after that the Holy Ghost [holy spirit] is come upon you: and ye shall be witnesses unto me both in Jerusalem, and in all Judaea, and in Samaria, and unto the uttermost part of the earth.